You may think that a man’s mind isn’t that complex in comparison with your own. But sometimes we experience those strange things you women call “emotions,” too. Yep, it’s true. So here are very plain and simple (kinda like our minds) 10 little things we want from you. But are often too darn stubborn to ask for.
By this, we mean respect for yourself, for your man, and for others. Respecting yourself means being aware of who you are, appreciating that, and not allowing anyone to put you down. You can show respect to your significant other, by listening to what he has to say, and by taking his opinions seriously.
Start valuing your time together, as well as the time he spends at work or with his friends. Finally, you have to show respect to everyone, especially his friends and family. Being seen yelling at the waiter for getting you cold coffee is anything, but attractive.
Humans are emotional beings– and no, men didn’t come from Mars. They too, like when someone shows affection to them. It is warm, welcoming, and encouraging. Just like women, men want someone to grab their hand, give them a hug, and tell them that everything will be fine. Even when it seems that nothing is.
“Life is too sweet and too short to express our affection with just our thumbs. Touch is meant for more than a keyboard”. – Kristin Armstrong
We want you to accept us as we are, not think of us as someone you can renovate. Yes, we have flaws but look past them. We want you to accept us, for the men we already are and are working to become.
“The greatest gift that you can give to others is the gift of unconditional love and acceptance”. – Brain Tracy
4. Sense of Humour:
Women are not the only ones who like it when someone makes them laugh. Men enjoy that, too. Don’t be afraid to show your true self. Being goofy is sometimes okay, especially after you pass the first stage of a relationship.
Laugh, enjoy life, have a great time everywhere (even in the grocery store), and your future together will be amazing. When looking for romance, don’t simply focus on what men want. The most important conclusion to draw from all of this- is to be who “YOU” are, and love it. Everything else is a matter of time or practice.
If you answer the question “Where you want to go tonight?” with “It’s up to you” after your third date. He’ll probably think of you as clingy and indecisive. And that is such a turnoff for guys.
When they see a woman, who doesn’t know- what to do when faced with the most trivial choices. They imagine a future with an overly dependent woman. And that is the future they want to run away from.
Mutual trust is the basis of a healthy relationship. If you are honest; you deserve his trust. If he’s doing everything within his power to earn yours. You shouldn’t spend your days asking, “Does he love me?”.
Men don’t like insecure women. They especially hate feeling like- they’re sitting on the defendant’s bench, explaining where they have been, and what have they been doing. What men want is someone they can trust and someone, who trusts them in return.
Your man may not always agree with you, but it probably makes him proud, that you can stand up for yourself. We do want to support you. But before that, we want our woman to speak for herself. Let her voice and notion, make noise in the seven heavens.
If you disagree with us or don’t like something that we did or said, just tell us. Make us realise our mistake by speaking up. Don’t shun the argument by keeping mum. Raise your voice, because strong women are sexy!
A mature woman has a vision for her future and chases it with voracity. When she is by your side, you two can take on the world together and fly high. A partner in crime, a teammate in your relationship, and in life. She should live her life on her terms and never give up.
“Women, like men, should try to do the impossible, and when they fail, their failure should be a challenge to others”. – Amelia Earhart
Being consistent is a valuable virtue because it lets your partner know that you really are who you are. You haven’t sent your “representative” to get to know them during the first couple of months of dating, but then suddenly transform once they’ve committed themselves to you.
To clarify the point, think of consistency as the opposite of volatility. If someone is unpredictable and volatile, it’s difficult to know how they will be acting towards you on a certain day, and that gets old no matter how aesthetically pleasing she is.
Admit it- you saw this one coming. Yes, we want sex. Often. In fact, just about any time and any place. But there’s more to it than just sex. We also like other signs of affection. So hold hands with us or give us a spontaneous hug. We’d love it.
“Anyone who is in love is making love the whole time, even when they’re not. When two bodies meet, it is just the cup overflowing. They can stay together for hours, even days. They begin the dance one day and finish it the next, or–such is the pleasure they experience–they may never finish it. No eleven minutes for them”. – Paulo Coelho, Eleven Minutes
That’s all folks! See ya next time.