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Loving a Lone Wolf: How to keep a Relationship on with a Loner

Loving a Lone Wolf: How to keep a Relationship on with a Loner

To maintain a healthy relationship with someone who likes to be alone is not as difficult as climbing a mountain. Despite choosing to stay away from people and being lone wolves, loners are extremely affectionate and caring once they come close to you.

If you and your partner have contrasting personalities and are finding it difficult to adjust. Because you have an outgoing nature and he/she seems happy whirling on their own. Then swim below to learn– How to keep a relationship on with a loner.

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Give your Lone Wolf enough space to be Himself:

Instead of dragging your lone wolf from his space, give him the liberty to himself. When dealing with a loner remember that patience is the key.

Once you start cherishing the moments of solitude with a loner, he/she will confide in you, and will not hesitate to accept you with open arms.

Let him Recharge on his Own:

Loners need their time-off to recharge and bounce back to their true self. Allow them to do so and don’t be clingy. If you have an anxious-preoccupied attachment style, you will have a hard time dealing with a loner.

However you two must communicate and share your insecurities with each other. To resolve the issues that you may have, as you two have divergent personalities.

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Loving a Lone Wolf: How to keep a Relationship on with a Loner

Don’t force your Lone Wolf to accompany You at every Social gathering:

Loners dislike being surrounded by people for long. Therefore, they try their best to avoid places, where they might be forced to initiate any sort of conversation.

This includes going to parties, social gatherings or public events, where you are most likely to meet random strangers.

In such a case, you must respect each other’s boundaries. And give your partner the liberty to say ‘No’ when needed. Because doing things half-heartedly is nothing but punishment.

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Have Patience as Loners take some Time to Open up:

Patience is the key when it comes to bonding and loving a loner guy or girl. They might seem to be off-key sometimes because they keep a lot to themselves.

But just like any other individual, loners too enjoy having intimate and personal relationships, which fills their heart with love and care.

All you need to do is have some patience and learn little by little. Not everybody likes unravelling different layers of their personality at once.

Don’t try to become a Therapist:

Everybody is concerned about their partner’s well being. They want them to lead a fulfilling and stress-free life. But some go to the extreme and wonder whether their partner feels insecure– living in a shell.

Because for loners that isn’t the case, they have chosen the loner lifestyle because it works the best for them.

So don’t come up with unnecessary advice like– you should become more social or you must hang out more than often.

Your partner might be intimidated by this and would dislike you for being ignorant and judgemental. Loners don’t need a therapist but a small circle of good people, who they see, when they wish to.

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Loving a Lone Wolf: How to keep a Relationship on with a Loner

Make Deeper connections by Spending sometime in Solitude:

Dating a loner means, you must step out of the fuzzy romantic love and feel the free-flowing cosmic connection, that will bring you two closer.

Instead of going on dates or hanging out in public all the time, try and plan something that works well for you two. Go out for hiking or camp under the star-studded sky.

Your partner will appreciate it as loners are sensitive, and they love building deeper connections.

Remember in silence, you will get to know more about your partner than in the maddening clatter of the city, which will only mute your partner’s voice.

Let your lone wolf feel comfortable before introducing him with your family and friends:

Before making all the plans for your loner partner, make sure he/she is ready for the new changes. Loners usually take some time to open up and be comfortable enough to initiate conversations with others.

They don’t like robotic and dead conversations, which generally happens when they don’t know a person well. Therefore, you must give some time to your partner before planning a dinner or brunch date with your family members.

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If you use phrases like, “You need to change yourself” often then just SORRY!

There are people who later in life complain about their loner partner for not being fun and interesting, like other boys from the block. This creates tension in a relationship because nobody likes being accused of being themselves.

If your man loves you, he will make efforts to do things that you find interesting. But if you are putting words in his ears and expecting him to behave the way you want, sadly it won’t work ever. Nobody likes being governed by anybody. Stay calm and do not say, you need to change your ways.

Loving a Lone Wolf: How to keep a Relationship on with a Loner

Do not rush, keep things slow:

If you are expecting too much from your partner, then you need to slow down. Because nothing will ever work if you’ll lose patience.

Sparks fly, when two divergent personalities collide. Therefore, you must understand each other before committing yourself to one another.

It’s not a mental health issue so relax:

Everybody has a different personality and their emotional needs are different. While some crave attention, others don’t. They do well when left alone or with someone, they bond well with. It gives them ample time to turn inward and focus on themselves and their goals.

To get attuned with their “self” and nurture food for thought that isn’t maligned by the opinions and drama ignited by the powerful members of the society like– media, affluent biggies and other sources. They like keeping a clear conscience by living a solitary life. So just relax and let your loner guy/girl do what they want.

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Let thy spirit be high in love. Namaste

Pragati Chauhanhttp://melodyofwords.com
I am a soulful woman who loves to conjure up my thoughts and write. I thoroughly enjoy creating art and expressing myself through words. I believe words have a certain kind of melody that can be understood by everybody.


  1. For the first time, I saw ur website on the laptop…u can realise how tedious it is to read long stories on phones and how marvellous on laptop. Well, please keep on writing more and more because I learn a lot about writing

  2. As a loner, I completely agree with you. I need lots of space, but there have been four women for whom I found what I was looking for and focused my attention on them. They captured my imagination. Sadly, I did not capture theirs (most wanted children, which because I was never happy with my day job, I could not imagine having, except with these women, who did not give me comfort that they felt the same) and thus I remain alone today.

  3. Thank you so much, Aditi. Yes, it is quite a job to read long posts on your smartphone. You need to keep scrolling. Thank you for finding out time to go through my website. Will keep posting often. Much love 🤗

  4. Since I’m a loner too, I can deeply understand this. It is difficult for us to display our emotions out in open. Also, we need a certain amount of time to be able to accept that person in our life. Since we know adding someone in our life can be detrimental if that person isn’t on the same level. Once they leave, there’s jarring loneliness in life. However, after all this, we do bounce back to normal because our loner life has taught us to stay strong even in thunderstorms. I wish, one day someone enters your life and sees you, the way you see your potential partner. Until then, keep evolving 🙂 You aren’t alone, we are with you.

  5. I don’t know whether I am a loner or not Pragati..but I feel you have written things I would want from my partner..feel connected to your words..
    Sometimes I feel it’s beautiful to live alone in ur own small world…it’s feels like I am stronger…Do you feel that you?

  6. Those who feel too much often find it difficult to express their emotions. Especially when you know how deeply you can love and care for someone. Therefore, some of us cherish the idea of having a relationship but find it hard to be in one. Since we know that walking on the aisle would demand efforts from both the sides. You need to be on the same page. You may or not be a loner but we as humans are difficult to live with. We think a lot and are capable of hurting others. Hence, the struggle. Yes, I too feel in charge of my life and mind, when I’m all by myself. But I would love taking the bullet for someone, who can put up with me 🙂 I wish lots of happiness for you.

  7. Wow, this has been very helpful. Thank you very much. Keeping writing please, the right people will be touched

  8. Just too many very messed up, stuck up, worthless, clueless, women that have no manners and personality at all either nowadays which is why many of us single guys can’t find love at all.

  9. Ahhh the joys and horrors of beeing a lone wolf. The strength it brings and the struggle with the question do I feel alone or lonely.

    I totally resonate with the part of beeing capable of hurting another human beeing all the while beeing capable of loving someone to death with everything I got.

    Love the article and vibing with everything.

    Thank you

  10. You are right being a lone wolf can make you tough, but in the end we too crave meaningful company. Someone with whom, we can share everything that goes in our mind.

    Sadly, sometimes when we find that person, build a good rapport with that special one and it doesn’t work out because you two are alike. Then it makes you question whether to save yourself or your person, which can be a tough decision to make.

    I wish, one day you find someone, who acknowledges every little thing you do, and appreciates when do go out of your comfort zone to make things right. Until then, keep exploring yourself, sending warm wishes for you. Take care!


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