Loving a Lone Wolf: How to keep a Relationship on with a Loner
To maintain a healthy relationship with someone who likes to be alone is not as difficult as climbing a mountain. Despite choosing to stay away from people and being lone wolves, loners are extremely affectionate and caring once they come close to you.
If you and your partner have contrasting personalities and you are finding it difficult to adjust. Since you have an outgoing nature and he/she seems happy whirling around on their own, then swim below to learn– How to keep a relationship on with a loner.
Give them enough space to be themselves:
Instead of dragging your lone wolf from his/her space. Try and offer them the liberty to be themselves. When dealing with a loner remember that patience is the key.
Once you start cherishing the moments of solitude with a loner, he/she will confide in you and will not hesitate to accept you with open arms.
Let them recharge on their own:
Loners need their time-off to recharge and bounce back to their true self. Allow them to do so and don’t be clingy. If you have an anxious-preoccupied attachment style, you will have a hard time dealing with a loner.
You two must communicate and share your insecurities with each other. To resolve the issues that you may have, as you two have divergent personalities.
Don’t force them to accompany you at every social gathering:
Loners dislike being surrounded by people for long. They try their best to avoid places where they will be forced to initiate any sort of communication or which involves meeting random strangers.
Like parties, social gatherings, and other public events. So you must respect each other’s boundaries and give each other the liberty to say ‘No’ when needed. Doing things half-heartedly is nothing but punishment.
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Have patience as they may take some time to open up:
Patience is the key when it comes to bonding with a loner guy or girl. They might seem to be off-key sometimes because they keep a lot to themselves.
But they too enjoy having intimate and personal relationships, which fills their heart with love and care. All you need to do is have some patience and learn little by little. Not everybody likes unravelling different layers of their personality at once.
Don’t try to become a therapist:
Everybody is concerned about their partner’s well being. They want them to lead a fulfilling and stress-free life. But some go to the extreme and wonder whether their partner feels insecure– living in a shell. Because for loners that isn’t the case, they have chosen the loner lifestyle because it works best for them.
So don’t come up with unnecessary advice like– you should become more social or you must hang out more than often. Your partner might be intimidated by this and would dislike you for being ignorant and judgemental. Loners don’t need a therapist but a small circle of good people, who they see, when they wish to.
Make deeper connections by spending sometime in solitude:
Dating a loner means, you must step out of the fuzzy romantic love and feel the free-flowing cosmic connection, that will bring you two closer. Instead of going on dates or hanging out in public all the time, try and plan something that works well for you two. Go out for hiking or camp under the star-studded sky.
He/she will appreciate it as loners are sensitive and they love building deeper connections. In silence, you will get to know more about your partner than in the maddening clatter of the city, which will only mute your partner’s voice.
Let your lone wolf feel comfortable before introducing him with your family and friends:
Before making all the plans for your loner partner, make sure he/she is ready for the new changes. Loners usually take some time to open up and be comfortable enough to initiate conversations with others.
They don’t like robotic and dead conversations, which generally happens when they don’t know a person well. Therefore, you must give some time to your partner before planning a dinner or brunch date with your family members.
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If you use phrases like, “You need to change yourself” often then just SORRY!
There are people who later in life complain about their loner partner for not being fun and interesting, like other boys from the block. This creates tension in a relationship because nobody likes being accused of being themselves.
If your man loves you, he will make efforts to do things that you find interesting. But if you are putting words in his ears and expecting him to behave the way you want, sadly it won’t work ever. Nobody likes being governed by anybody. Stay calm and do not say, you need to change your ways.
Do not rush, keep things slow:
If you are expecting too much from your partner, then you need to slow down. Because nothing will ever work if you’ll lose patience.
Sparks fly, when two divergent personalities collide. Therefore, you must understand each other before committing yourself to one another.
It’s not a mental health issue so relax:
Everybody has a different personality and their emotional needs are different. While some crave attention, others don’t. They do well when left alone or with someone, they bond well with. It gives them ample time to turn inward and focus on themselves and their goals.
To get attuned with their “self” and nurture food for thought that isn’t maligned by the opinions and drama ignited by the powerful members of the society like– media, affluent biggies and other sources. They like keeping a clear conscience by living a solitary life. So just relax and let your loner guy/girl do what they want.
Let thy spirit be high in love. Namaste